Guest blogger, Theo Cade, shares his experience of working with Driver energy. Driver is not always the pattern we think of for interpersonal harmony, but in this case, it's just the ticket.
Taking the mini FEBI on page 111, I found my least developed energy is Driver. Driver is my wife's strength. This has helped "Strengthen My Play" in our marriage.
Jude loves to be on time for appointments and meetings. I am more relaxed about this, which can be a stress point for us. One day I was particularly slow in getting ready for an appointment we both had together. This did not endear me to this woman I adore, appreciate, and love to treat well. She was not the happiest of campers.
The next morning we had another appointment at the same time. After studying the energy of the Driver, I delivered my first words early in the day in Driver style. My right hand made chopping gestures into my left palm, a clear Driver energy. I noted to her the three concrete steps I had laid out to do to be ready to go on time, chop, chop, chop.
It worked. All three tasks done in readiness on time. Even had time to handle an unexpected broken water pipe. As Jude moved into the passenger seat next to me, ready on time, found myself glowing sitting beside my happy wife.
blog excerpt from Theo Cade, Ph.D. (for full post, see The Zen Leader blog)