We are now five weeks into the New Year and for many this means resolutions are beginning to fade in lieu of old habits. What is the best intention on January 1st often becomes just another a failed resolution by now. By March, many of us have for forgotten them all together. So, what will make this year different?
I should first point out that I am not against resolutions. In fact, quite the contrary, I think it is really important to take the time when the calendar changes to reflect on the past year and verbalize goals for the future. Take the time to stop and reflect on all that you have accomplished in the past year, what your greatest challenges were and your greatest victories. I find myself getting so caught up in the daily grind that I lose sight of all that has occurred over the past year. So I encourage everyone to take the time to reflect, celebrate those victories and learn from those struggles.
Next, think of what you want to accomplish this year. What needs to happen so that on January 1st, 2013, you will look back on your year and say, “2012 was a great year!” The energy patterns can help with this effort. Enter the Visionary pattern to help you broaden your thinking to be more future oriented and picture what would have to happen to make 2012 a successful year. Stay in this pattern and envision what the emotion is and really feel into what a great 2012 would feel like. You don’t have to do this alone, in fact, you shouldn’t do this alone. Enter Collaborator and share your thoughts and this feeling with others, building on the collective energy of those around you. Next, enter the Organizer pattern and capture what needs to happen to make it a great year. Think of the steps that must occur for those things to happen and write those down too.
So, how do we prevent this year from being just another year of broken resolutions? For this we will summon our inner warrior, which we call the Driver energy pattern. The key is to turn good intentions into habits that define us. The Driver energy can help as the best way to form a new habit is to start today. It’s really that simple: every day enter Driver and get it done! If ‘it’ is working out, the best way to form an exercise habit is to workout TODAY! Not tomorrow, not next week, but today. And tomorrow will turn into your new today so guess what, it's again time to summon the Driver and workout today. Eventually, this will become a habit, as the activity will occur with minimum thought and more psychological distress will arise when not doing the activity - even when the activity is hard. Until then, let your Driver be your inner warrior, fighting for today.
As we see in leadership, the patterns can support your efforts in making 2012 a great year. Just as whole leadership has shown to be best practice in business, so can all the patterns support you in forming new habits, reaching goals and creating an amazing year. This year, let your whole self, with all the potential within you and all the support around you, make it the best one yet!